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Practice Active Listening to Improve a Relationship

Active listening is a skill that one possesses and has developed a specific communication that allows one to fully hear what another person is trying to say. Since listening and communication are essential elements which can help improve relationships, in order for a couple to be successful in their relationship, they must communicate and listen in a meaningful way.

Let the other person speak

When you allow time for the other person to speak, this is already indicating that you will also take effort to refrain yourself from arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position or to resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, and, therefore, when you do these, you will have more chances of listening well to the person speaking and understanding what he/she is driving at.

See yourself in the other person’s shoes

By allowing yourself to be in the other person’s shoes, you are actually prioritizing to focus more on the other person’s emotional needs during the dialogue and, doing this, will help you understand better the other person’s perspective, which can help you be an active listener.

Don’t make immediate conclusions

When you are in the middle of a dialogue with a person, try as much as possible to avoid making final judgments on the other person because this indicates that you already have a pre-existing belief about the person and that blocks you from doing an active listening and, therefore, you just have to avoid this negative thought by clearing your mind of this preconceived belief and instead focus more on positively resolving your relationship issues.

Take time to inquire

During the process of communication and listening to each other, when the other person has finished his/her position, it’s time to ask questions for clarification purposes, but don’t set the tone of asking questions like you are making accusations, and when the other person answers your questions, listen well to determine the truth of his/her statements.

Rephrase what the other person says

It’s not a negative way if you rephrase what you all heard from the other person because you are just confirming whether you heard it all right and by rephrasing what the other person says, you communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and, in doing so, you have understood clearly the other person’s point of view, which is still part of active listening. Being an effective communicator means you are also learning how to listen just as much as you need to learn to speak, so that when you are in a dialogue to resolve a relationship, by focusing on what the other person is saying will actually allow you to put yourself in a good position to understand more the situation and this is a result of listening correctly, which means that you are learning more on the issue concerned.